Anal Sex Play For Beginners – Tips & Techniques

Just came across this piece on anal sex by Ask Dan & Jennifer and thought it has a great incite on how to get yourself and your partner into the highly erotic world of anal play so thought i would share it with you guys.

Anal sex is very erotic for many people, both men and women. There are many nerve endings in the rectum, particularly around the opening of the anus, that a lot of people find pleasurable when stimulated. Men often love the super tightness of a woman’s anus. Anal play – whether you’re having anal sex or using a toy or your fingers – can be intensely intimate.  The taboo of enjoying a so-called ‘prohibited’ activity with your partner can be super exciting and just what you need to turn up the heat in your sex life! There are, however, a few guidelines that should be followed for anal sex to make both you and your partner safe and comfortable!

Don’t Skimp On The Lube

The anus does not naturally lubricate itself at all, therefore, it is an absolute must to use a good water based or silicone based lubricant during anal sex. While you don’t want to use silicone based lube in the vagina because it’s difficult to clean out, silicone lube will get flushed out with everything else when you go to the bathroom so feel free to use it for anal sex. Don’t ever attempt to have anal sex without lube, because you could easily tear something on the outside or even the inside, which would require a not so fun trip to the hospital. Also, do not use numbing or desensitising lubricant, because if it hurts, you need to feel it and you need to stop! Just use lots and lots of regular water or silicone based lube for any kind of anal play.

Learn To Relax!

If you’re not able to relax when you have anal sex, you’re going to find it very uncomfortable or painful. Practise relaxing your anus around a small anal sex toy or a finger and work your way up to the bigger stuff. You certainly can’t expect yourself to accommodate a large sex toy or penis if you’ve never tried anal sex before, but if you learn to relax during anal play, you’ll gradually get to where you can take more and enjoy more.

Keep Things Clean

Since going through the backdoor will potentially (probably) get you at least a little dirty, it’s very important to keep things clean. Clean any and all sex toys used for anal play with hot, soapy water or special sex toy cleaner and wear a condom when inserting the penis into the anus. Wearing a condom during anal sex will allow you to slip it off and go straight to vaginal sex without worrying about bacteria spreading. If you don’t want to wear a condom during anal sex, you will need to wash your penis thoroughly with warm, soapy water. Neglecting to keep things clean during sex will increase the risk of spreading bacteria and giving your partner an infection.

Warm Up And Get Turned On First

Just like with sex, if you want to have good anal sex, it’s important to have a little foreplay first and get turned on before you start. Giving yourself a warm up period will help you relax and help get you turned on so that you’re more ready for anal play. If you’re not turned on before you receive anal sex, you’re anus is going to be clamped tight and you’ll find that anal play is going to be more uncomfortable and painful than if you allow yourself a good warm up period first. Try having your partner give you oral sex first and even a rim job if you both like it.

Go Slowly And Be Gentle

Anal sex is not the time to be rough or practise BDSM. Since the anus is basically made for things to come out of, you have to be very careful when putting things in there. Go slowly and be very careful not to be too rough, even if you’re extremely turned on by having anal sex. Communicate with your partner about whether it feels good or it hurts too much, and if it hurts make sure you stop right away. Have a safe word that your partner can use to let you know that she wants it to stop immediately, such as “banana” or another non-sex word. Remember that your first time having anal sex doesn’t have to last very long or be perfect. There’s always another time! The important thing is to make sure your partner is comfortable and having a good time too.

Safe Anal Sex Toys

If you’re going to use anal sex toys, it’s important that you purchase toys that are specifically made for anal sex. Many sex toys that are for vaginal use or even homemade sex toys can get lost in your anus because there is no “end” like with a vagina. Getting a sex toy lost in your anus is not only extremely painful and dangerous, it is also very embarrassing because it will require a doctor and most likely surgery to remove it. Instead, choose anal sex toys that have a wide, flared base or ring on the bottom that keeps the toy from sliding too far into the anus.

Best Sex Positions For Anal Sex

While almost any sex position can be used for anal sex, there are some sex positions that are better for anal sex because they allow for easier access. The missionary position with the girl on bottom and her legs lifted high allows for great access to the anus, as does the doggy style position. You can also try the reverse cowgirl position where the woman is on top but facing her partner’s feet, or you can try spooning with your partner behind you. The sex position doesn’t matter as much as long as you and your partner are both comfortable and having fun!

Hope you guys found this useful and if all goes well you should be seeing some of this?

Chris DeBond

The Pleasure Zone

the-pleasure-zone@live.co.uk

Proof That We Really Do Test Out Our Own Products

How many sex shop owners can honestly say that they make sure the products that they sell to the public are fully tried and tested?  Probably not many but us here at The Pleasure Zone take great pride and satisfaction in testing them personally :-)

As you can see from some of the pictures below me make sure we personally test as many of our products as possibly in between our other adventures as escorts also.

10 Inch Jelly Dong

Well what can we say about this monster it is made of a firm jelly mold and at a whopping 10 inches it can really hit the spot.

As you can see from the picture the Jelly Dong certainly did satisfy me and has become a real favourite when we route through our range of toys to find a helping hand if you know what i mean lol.

Rabbit Vibrator

Well how can you ever go wrong with the Rabbit Vibrator?  This is one of our standard Rabbit Vibrators but has a dual rotation function as well as a multi speed vibration system that really does deliver a fantastic sensation.

This product is a must for any woman as part of her sex toy range.

If you want to see some of the great sex toys we stock or if you are looking for some sexy lingerie, fantasy uniforms or bondage aids then please come see us at The Pleasure Zone.

Chris & Zoe
The Pleasure Zone
the-pleasure-zone@live.co.uk

"Society and Sex" an erotic sex story by Sextails

I found this article while surfing the web and though it was very interesting so i thought i would copy it to my blog for you guys to read!

Most men feel that they are much more sexual than women. After all, men think about sex every 2 to 5 minutes or so they say. Men also think that they have to talk women into having sex. Most men have been taught to be good boys or gentlemen and to suggest sex to a woman is insulting.

So what is the actual reality of women and sex? It took me ages to realize this, but women are much more sexual than men. In fact, they are much more sexual than most men can ever imagine.

To get an idea of this, read any women's sexual fantasy book. Women's sexual fantasies are much more developed than just about any mans. They can be elaborate and emotional and very descriptive and powerful. They incorporate taboo subjects, such as being dominated or in bondage and can be very slutty.

So why do most of us think that women don't like sex that much. I feel that parents teach their girls that you must be in love and in a committed relationship or married for sex. So their daughter will not go out and have sex and get pregnant. Society also says that a woman who really loves sex is a slut. Men are studs if they have a lot of sex with many women. A woman that has multiple partners is called a slut. This is why that even although a women love sex they will not admit this to someone that they do not know. Women do not want to be treated as objects.

Many women and some men too have had sexual abuse in their past. Some of us have had religious guilt about sex and masturbation. These factors can cripple the enjoyment of sex and intimacy. It takes a lot of healing before sex can be really enjoyed after abuse. I feel all of us have had some negative conditioning about sex. You were born as the result of an orgasm. Why not celebrate that fact! Other societies have celebrated the sex orgasms. Why not western societies?

When you walk down the street, do you hear men and women having orgasms? Not usually. Most of us block our sounds in sex due to our sexual shame. In my private practice as a sexologist, one aspect I suggest is to open up to the natural sounds during sex. If you block the sounds you block the full range of energy in your body.

In fact, I suggest to experiment making huge sounds into a pillow so not to deafen your lover. Men love a responsive woman that makes orgasmic sounds but most not want to do the same. Talking to women, I am surprised about how bad most men are as lovers. What is even more surprising is that most women put up with this!

Most men's orgasms are only a minute or two in length. However, a woman has the potential to have 2 to 3 hour orgasms even without stimulation. I have known several women that have explored the possibility of being orgasmic when working in an office! Most men do not realize this, but they can have orgasms without ejaculation. So I would like to leave you with the thought that women love sex. Women love to be naughty and slutty. Try some dirty talking during your next sexual experience.

Hi there guys I guess thats some food for thought? Now that you know your partner is really a secret sex maniac why not come and check out The Pleasure Zone and pick her up some little sexual treats?

Mr C P DeBond
The Pleasure Zone